Instead of the holiday season “impending” this year, let’s be proactive to create the space we need for expectation. Let’s simplify the holidays and avoid burnout.
Do the holidays sometimes feel like they are “impending”?
Somehow, every year I get shocked when Halloween decorations show up in the stores in July, and the Christmas trees are already selling in September.
It drives me nuts, if I’m honest.
It makes me feel like I’m being rushed through the year, and I also find it leads me toward holiday burnout.
I mean, it creates in me a sense of adrenaline, and “I’ve got so much to do for Thanksgiving/Christmas and I need to start NOOOOOWWWWW.”
Then by the time the holidays actually arrive, I’m over it.
So I’ve needed to embrace important rhythms to help me not to get burned out. Because I don’t want to enter the holiday season tired, or resentful.I want to be able to embrace the whole meaning of it, and the important family time with peace, and hope, and joy.
Since it’s the top of November, you have the opportunity right now to craft your schedule ahead of time in a way that serves your family well.
Make a list of the very top priorities for you (i.e. faith celebrations, family time at home, certain holiday gatherings) and get them on your calendar now. Decide that it’s ok to say “no” to the extra things that pop up.
If you are a DIY gift maker, and you also typically host a cookie exchange, and you always have a Christmas party with the girls, could you gather your friends together for a 3-in-one, where you make your gifts while the cookies are baking and you are drinking eggnog? We can find creative ways to simplify the holidays.
Advent is all about waiting. This year it begins on November 28th. It’s an inhale of breath, expecting and anticipating the arrival of Jesus. Advent can be a beautiful season of slowing down, acknowledging our need of a Savior, and prioritizing our faith.
The Adore Advent Study from Joyful Life Magazine is part of this beautiful Deluxe Winter Set, or can be downloaded on its own.
Think about the people you normally purchase gifts for (your own immediate family, your sister’s family, your brother’s family etc.). What lights them up? What pulls them together?
Find a gathering opportunity near them that they would love (an Escape Room, a concert, a scavenger hunt etc.) and purchase one gift card for the whole family. Create a fun video explanation or a card to send them explaining the joy you want for them to experience. Bam! Your shopping for them is done and you have saved yourself hours in the mall.
Practice prioritizing a segment of each day, and at least one day each week to rest, recharge, and simply breathe. If you practice this with regularity in the early weeks of November, it can become an established habit that will be easier to maintain through the holiday weeks.
Instead of the holiday season “impending” this year, let’s be proactive to create the space we need for expectation. For anticipation. We have the opportunity right now to change the story we are writing. So let’s write a purposeful one.
If you share on socials about purposeful choices you are making this season, please hashtag it #yourpurposefulstory so I can see it!
Tell me in the comments: How are you living on purpose this season?
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I’ve been thinking a lot about how to simplify in 2021.
Are you a word-of-the-year kind of person? I am. I’ve actually shared about it several times on this blog, words like JOY, HAPPY, IMAGINE & PERSIST. Narrowing in on one or two words for the year has turned out to be a great way for me to focus and grow.
2020 became a year none of us expected, didn’t it? We all faced a lot of surprising and disappointing things. In our family that included the loss of our main source of income, my mom being sick and ultimately passing away from cancer, and my father-in-law rapidly declining with dementia. We still have many unknowns in front of us, like many others do. Our heads have been spinning a bit with the emotions, details, and decisions we need to make to move forward.
That was likely a big influence in my choice of words for 2021 – SIMPLIFY.
I’m writing this blog post for me. And you. I’ve decided on the word “simplify” for the year ahead, and now I need to walk it out. But I don’t want simplifying to be complicated because that would totally be counterproductive! I don’t have all the answers yet, but I have some things I’ve decided to do as I’ve been thinking about how to simplify in 2021. Here are a few. I’ll most likely be back in another post with some more.
When I was in college, I got pretty good at juggling a schedule that included a ton of deadlines. Because my college experience included a ton of rehearsals, performances, and practice time, I really had to be on top of all the academic stuff. I used a system where I gave myself early deadlines so that I’d always be ahead of schedule. It worked.
Then life happened, with marriage, jobs, kids and volunteer stuff. And somehow I forgot how to use a planner. Maybe this is just me, but somehow I had a disconnect between school life and real life. I’m way in deep now to adulting, and I’m on the struggle bus trying to keep track of all the things now in my head. So I’m becoming a planner girl again. I found Day Designer, and love what they have, especially because some of their planners are undated so I can start partway into the year. I’ll keep you posted on how the transition back to a planned-out life goes.
Do you depend on a planner??
The only things I enjoy shopping for are clothes and gifts. Beyond that, I’m not a huge fan. So I’ve been working at simplifying how to shop for the necessities in life. I’ve combined a ton of my normal items into my monthly subscription box from Young Living, and I’ve started to LOVE using Shipt to get my groceries delivered. There is something sooooo freeing about creating an order in the evening, and having it on the doorstep first thing in the morning. (I really love practical packages on my doorstep, friends!) I save time and money by using a subscription box and a grocery delivery service…simple!
It’s time for me to start to pare down on some things. The truth is, we will likely be selling our house in the next few months, either to move elsewhere or simply downsize – who knows? (the super long transition, right?) And downsizing in square footage means downsizing in stuff too. One of our sons will soon get his own place, so I’m setting aside things for him to take with him. After that, I’m going to create sections of “stuff” to sell, donate, or discard. These things include:
I could use some suggestions in this arena. Do you have a tried and true method for paring down in “stuff”? Please tell me in the comments.
This is a big one for me right now, partly because we are facing so much unknown as far as where we will end up, but also partly because of the journey I was on with my mother in 2020. Legacy and purpose have become so much more important to me
I have narrowed down several things that I love:
So, as I think about how to simplify in 2021 while we stare into the unknown, I know this: I will continue to invest in people’s joy and wellness by sharing Young Living, I will write strategic things to help people move toward lasting joy, and I will take steps toward my dream of hosting people at a Joy Let Loose lakehouse.
Are you in a “simplify” mode? I’d love to hear how you plan to go about it! Share in the comments!
I need a quiet heart. Thankfully we went away to the sea, first in April, and then again in July.
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But since we have been back from our summer vacation, the last two months have been full. Work, writing deadlines, settling in, parenting responsibilities, company, and the new normal of this season have all been positive, but very busy. And as I’ve thought about writing for Joy Let Loose, I’ve simply felt depleted, like I didn’t have many more resources to pour out.
So when it felt like a raging sea, I needed to remind myself of the gentle waves. I needed to remember my quiet heart. I have looked at the pictures and videos on my phone, and sat out on my patio, staring at our pond. If it weren’t so hot again this afternoon, that’s where I’d be right now! 🙂
I need to drink deeply. And in my rest, these words refresh me:
You faithfully answer our prayers with awesome deeds,
O God our savior.
You are the hope of everyone on earth,
even those who sail on distant seas.
You formed the mountains by your power
and armed yourself with mighty strength.
You quieted the raging oceans
with their pounding waves
and silenced the shouting of the nations.
Those who live at the ends of the earth
stand in awe of your wonders.
From where the sun rises to where it sets,
you inspire shouts of joy.
(Psalm 65:5-8 NLT)
I am reminded how Jesus rebuked the storm’s waves in Mark 4:39 by saying to it, “Peace! Be still!” And in the times I choose to take moments to pull away from the chaos in my life and mind, it is because I hear Him speak to my heart, “Be still.” It is much like in Psalm 46 when God said, “Be still and know that I am God.”
So much of my life feels simultaneously like catching up and keeping going; like moving forward and dragging from behind. But the Lord calls me to stop striving, and to set apart time to simply rest with Him. He invites me to a quiet heart.
For my own sake, I’m learning this is incredibly important. And for the sake of Joy Let Loose, if I don’t do it, there will be much less joy to share!
(If you made it this far, you may be interested to read about some quiet moments I took by the sea in Nova Scotia, Canada, this summer. I had a chance to share my experience with Annesley Writers last month.)
In January, I issued to my readers my Morning Joy Challenge. I’d encourage you to take a look, and I’m going to re-visit it in my own life as well. But once the day gets rolling, it may be that we also need a Peace, Be Still invitation. Any time you feel chaotic, or you sense God calling you to step away, please use this resource to help you to be still, and know that He is God.
So what next? How do you re-enter the world of storms after taking those precious moments of stillness? Well, I would recommend keeping a journal
Habits take time to form. So, keep the Peace, Be Still resource and a quiet heart journal
Both the Spirit and the bride say, “Come!” Anyone who hears should say, “Come!” And the one who is thirsty should come. Whoever desires should take the living water as a gift.
(Rev. 22:17)
Elizabeth Joy
Confession: Sometimes I find myself in a zone where I don’t even notice clutter. Don’t get me wrong, I like order. But when I’m in a creative mode, there is a part of me that seems able to simply ignore it.
Sometimes.
However, I have made a discovery that continual clutter ends up rubbing me the wrong way. And I don’t prefer to be irritated. I’m much more likely to notice the joy that lies within each day when my world around me is, well, organized. I am disciplining myself to see organizational tasks as an opportunity to practice gratitude.
I am thankful to God for all He has entrusted to me, and I desire to care for it well. Share on X
Now, I’m not recommending obsessive organization here. After all, the pendulum can swing widely, my friends, and obsessive organizing can steal joy just as much as clutter can. But Scripture seems to contrast disorder against peace (1 Cor. 14:33), so it makes sense to me that a chaotic world lacks joy.
The regular, diligent clearing away of un-necessary, or broken, or dirty things in our physical realms is wise, and leads to a pleasant and ordered life with wide open spaces. And developing this habit in the physical realms of home and office may also help to lead us toward regular, diligent clearing away of unwanted internal things.
There was a short season when my youngest was a wee one that Loonette the clown, and her doll, Molly, graced our TV screen. It was all childlike, enthusiastic glory. Her “Big Comfy Couch” tunes continue to rattle around in my brain sometimes; ear worms, shall we say. Although I never developed an affinity for this colorful character, I can say that one of her lessons was helpful with my young children, and continues to help me today: The Ten Second Tidy. (Now, if we actually tidy up the way that Loonette does, practically stuffing everything we pick up behind or under the couch cushions, I daresay we haven’t really tidied at all – we’ve simply relocated our mess. There are spiritual depths to this physical lesson!)
Can de-cluttering actually impact our joy? Many of us sit for long periods of time each day, required to focus on certain projects at length. In fact, recent global studies indicate that people sit on average 7.7 hours per day, with some sitting as many as 15 hours daily! First of all, this sedentary lifestyle is not only hazardous to our physical health, but it can compromise our emotional health and hinder our productivity. So, whether we are stay-at-home parents or business execs, homeschooling teachers or public school guidance counselors, I believe we all can benefit greatly (emotionally, and in productivity) from planning for periodic de-cluttering of our surroundings and our minds throughout our days.
Not only will it refresh our minds to accomplish regular small tasks of organization, getting up and moving about can re-ignite our thought processes and creativity. Finally, I believe the actual, disciplined removal of clutter can benefit both our short- and long-term health.
The disciplined removal of clutter can benefit both our short- and long-term health. Share on X
Below are four sets of 10-second breaks, each intended as springboards to help us to find small, regular windows throughout our days to take “organizational” breaks for our physical, emotional, and spiritual health.
Ten 10-second mental health breaks
Ten 10-second in-your-chair breaks (Office)
Ten 10-second out-of-chair breaks (Office)
Ten 10-second work-at-home breaks
My favorite focus & energy blend
Clutter in our homes, offices, and minds can steal our joy. Share on X
Bonus: Check out another favorite essential oil blend – my Joy Blend!
Proactively setting aside brief moments throughout our days to de-clutter will have long-term benefits on our physical and emotional health. These short, regular breaks can help pattern lives of gratitude for the things we’ve been given, and can inspire greater clarity of mind. Even today, we can begin to implement 10-Second Tidy principles into our work or home lives. I pray that as we do, our outlook will be of peace and not disorder. And in that peace, may we find joy.
How do you clear clutter in your home, office or mind? Comment below!
Elizabeth Joy
The Lost River
Annesley’s January theme is simply “Time”. This is something I am learning about immensely in this season of my life. If I value and honor time, it will be an important contributor to my journey toward joy. On Wednesday my article The Lost River went live. This article describes an area the Lord has been highlighting in my life over the last few months. I invite you to take a trip over to Annesley and to read The Lost River. And, since you are heading there, you might as well grab a cup of coffee and a comfy chair. There are so many beautiful writers that you will want to scroll and get acquainted with each of them.
Your hearts will be blessed.
Elizabeth Joy